what example? it's obvious. genetic makeup, environment, parents, peers, etc, etc - everything around you affects everything you do. it's not just limited to people or environments in your vicinity: it is a never ending cycle. every event that you partake in your life is a direct consequence of some other event which in turn is a direct consequence of another event ad infinitum. deterministic chaos. it's how the universe works. no one has a 'soul' or any unique 'something' in them that gives them an infallible identity or purpose or guarantees true control over their actions the moment they're born (in fact birth, and evolution, itself ie the transfer of genetic material from parent to progeny to preserve environmentally favourable characteristics, exemplifies this); theyre completely shaped by the world they live in. to suggest otherwise is arrogant.
I agree one is not born with a purpose but I don't agre what happens to that person is somely causal by their surroundings. So for all intensive purposes give an example, it's easier to debate with examples rather than a vague "everything."
what if your uncle dies of aids and it makes you sad. that is a direct effect on you. is it your fault that he died of aids?
Well I like Pants. Rebut.
I don't like Pants I like his rape scenario because he was the first to bring one up. Rebut.
Oh my fucking Rayne just fucking rebut!
i was talking more about the fact that your uncle's aids had a direct emotional effect on you. his aids were not tied to you in any way but emotionally, and it is impossible to set yourself outside of that pain emotionally. so was it your fault? it was not based on your decision to have that uncle, and location wouldn't matter.
The fear of suffering or going on in life without someone to help you through life and make you "happy" is an example of bad faith. Giving "power" to anything other than yourself in any facet is a choice a person makes and thus feeling upset is indeed your choice.
okay so its correct to blame yourself when someone you know dies of cancer because you had emotional investment in their situation? that sounds much more horrible than your conceptually taking it in, i'm sure.
No it's not your fault he HAD cancer AND died, it's your fault for getting so UPSET that they had cancer and died.
Recently I don't know, maybe when we used to talk or just broke up. I don't see your point?
so because my cat was crucified and burned alive while i was forced to watch, the entire situation was my fault because some people broke in my home unexpectedly and did it for a completely random reason?
unrealistic situations are fun with this kind of belief structure
i agree that we need to take personal responsibility, but there's a limit old bean.
Thinking this way makes me less cynical to be honest and is actually very liberating. Nothing is more random yet freeing than reality.
i also agree, but i like to imagine. conceptual idealistic choices are healthy and introduce artistic and philosophical obstacles that allow the trip along this twisting and unpaved highway of life seem more memorable and satisfying.